Visiting your parents over the holidays is usually a joyous and heartfelt occasion. But this time it’s different. Your parents weren’t their normal selves.
You witnessed some serious red flags at your parents home. Perhaps you have experienced some of the following:
- poor personal hygiene
- consistent forgetfulness
- stacks of mail including bounced checks, unpaid bills and late notices
- erratic sleep schedule
- change in routine
- rapid weight loss
Of course these signs are a cause for concern. Seeing our parents in this condition can be heartbreaking. Like most adult children who love their parents we feel it’s our job to address what’s happening.
My Parents Are Not Cooperating. I Only Want To Help
Remember you were once their child. Imagine having someone you use to care for as a baby, now telling you it’s time to take away the keys to the car. Your parents feel like you are threatening their freedom and independence.
You’ve tried to have a conversation with your parents and they flat out refuse your ideas. They become angry and hostile because your parents feel like you are treating them like a child.
The relationship starts to become more tense. Your parents are angry and you are hurt, stressed, frustrated and confused.
Avoid Being The Bad Guy
How do you move forward from this situation? How can you repair the relationship and accomplish getting the support you see they need. This is where professional assistance can play an important role. A professional and compassionate care navigator can help you through this process in dealing with your parents.
Here are some tips I would like to offer to you to help empower you through this difficult time:
TIP NO. #1 Put yourself in their shoes.
TIP NO. #2 Be Strategic with your approach.
TIP NO. #3 Introduce topics over time.
TIP NO. #4 Let someone else be the bad guy.
Learn more about these tips and effective communication in our video…
How To Help Your Stubborn Parents
This is one example of the very delicate and tough conversation you may have with your parents in the coming years. The delicate part is how to have a conversation with your parents about their present declining condition. The tough part is helping them make decisions to support their wellness and proceed to take baby steps towards accepting help.
If you have any questions about how to approach your parents, please don’t hesitate to contact us. We are here for you.